This is a guest post by Wendy van Eyck
I sometimes struggle to talk to people who believe in Jesus.
Sometimes I wish my friends didn’t sound so Christian. Sometimes I wish they’d tell me how they feel instead of telling me what they think I want to hear.
I find it hard because I don’t always feel like we can have a conversation about really matters to them.
Often it feels like we are all trying to sound “Christian” rather than “human”.
I know from experience how tempting it is to brush people off with a “Christian” sounding, “Yes, what I am going through is hard, but God sustains me.”
I learnt through holding my husband’s hand through two years of cancer treatment, that speaking words that sound “Christian” prevents people from being Jesus’ hands and feet to us.
I think when I read Matthew 5: 3-5 in the Message this really clicked for me:
You’re blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule.
You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can the One dearest to you embrace you.
You’re blessed when you’re content with just who you are—no more, no less. That’s the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can’t be bought.
Those don’t sound a lot like descriptions of people who have it all together. They read more like descriptions of me on my best days.
It sounds like the kind of person who would be good friends with the biblical Job, the kind of person who understands the despair David wrote of in the Psalms.
It sounds like the kind of person who would just come straight out and say, “I don’t know how I’m going to get out of the mess I’m in.”
It sounds like the kind of person who lives openly with brokenness.
It sounds like the kind of person who isn’t out to impress God, or anyone, with holiness.
It sounds like the kind of person who accepts being a Christian is more about what God does in a person than being perfect.
It sounds like the kind of person I want to be.
And I’m realizing that if I want to have the kind of conversations, with people who believe in Jesus, that go beyond “praise God” and “Amen”, I need to start giving honest answers myself. And as I live with honesty in my brokenness maybe it’ll encourage others to share what’s on their hearts.
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Check out Wendy’s blog here. She writes devotionals about finding God in ordinary moments. In an inspiring way, she also writes about her and her husband, Xylon’s journey as Xylon fought cancer. Follow @wendyvaneyck
Thanks for stopping by Wendy!